I existed to make dinner for the kids and provide an open ear when he needed to vent.

After 15 years — six of which involved intensive marriage counseling — I finally decided to walk away.

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No one would ever seek out a 50-year-old sugar baby … John was a 34-year-old business executive from my town.

His "Hello" note was very straightforward, even a bit cold.

Now that I think of it, he threw in an extra $500 every now and again — you know, just to be nice. It wasn't about neon-colored Camaros, colossal diamonds or nights at five-star hotel suites.

He drove a high-end import car, but it wasn't fiery red.

At the time, I had joint custody and only saw them two weeks out of the month.

I knew they weren't ever going to meet him, so I didn't feel the need to tell him right off the bat.

I learned that he had two children and was separated, largely because he and his wife weren't intimate enough. He was looking for someone who was sexy, confident and stable, which he wasn't finding by dating younger women. After my past experience with the 29-year-old, I was worried that he might not be on my maturity level.

But the way he spoke about his career and what he wanted out of our arrangement told me there were no nasty tricks up his sleeve.

Not when I was 21, and certainly not as a 51-year-old divorced parent of three.

Perhaps it was my Roman Catholic background that shaped my views on relationships and love, but I used to think the sugar-daddy-sugar baby dynamic was silly and taboo.

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