Couples often mistake good chemistry for good communication.

Just because you can talk for hours on the phone and feel very connected, doesn’t mean you have good communication.

#3: Do We Consistently Reach Win/Win Resolutions To Our Problems?

Two people who cannot be emotionally open with each other can never have true intimacy and love.

When we share our feelings with another we connect and feel close to that person.

The essence of good communication is that you can consistently reach win-win solutions to your problems and disagreements. The communication about the problem is the problem. One of the most important principles of marriage is: If it’s important to you, it’s important to me. Do you make jokes about the other person in front of others and then try to cover it by saying, “I was only joking”?

This means when you are finished talking, both of you feel good about the solution. Problems that don’t get fully resolved turn into resentments. Taking care of each other’s needs is about wanting to give each other pleasure. We respect a person's good character, meaningful aspirations and goals he/she is committed to, and the good deeds he/she has done, not the way he/she looks. If you truly respect someone, you talk to that person with respect and dignity. One of the biggest ways that couples demonstrate a lack of respect for each other is by playing games. Mature people who respect each other don’t play games. #6: For the Man: Are You Ready to Take Responsibility for a Wife and Family?

The only way you know if you have good communication is when you have problems.

When there is a disagreement of any kind, small or large, this is when you find out how good or how bad your communication is.How do you know if the two of you are emotionally open and honest?The next time you have a conversation with your partner, ask him or her, “What do you feel about me right now? ” If you can communicate like this with each other consistently, you have the potential for building an intimate relationship.No one wants to date some one who does not talk, is boring or nervous. The trick is to select from among these the questions that are closest to your heart and whose answers are important to you.So dating experts advise that short of having a paper full of questions, you must be ready with a list of interesting, impressive and enjoyable questions that will keep the conversation thriving in those five-ten minutes. You must go about the dating event with a positive attitude. Also remember never to be tongue-tied and paralyzed if you can't remember the important questions; there are so many inane things to discuss and enjoy!One thing you really don’t have is the luxury of time.