Once you’ve hit day four all hope dissipates and you must sadly accept the fact that you will never be hearing from him.

and if you do have exclusivity and depth, you pretty much have a relationship whether you want to admit it or not.

To answer your follow-up question: I don’t think you’re a skank, but I don’t think the majority of our culture (men or women) in the US are as open-minded as I am.

The occasional text message is fine, but for the most part you should be an infrequent presence in his life and when you’re there, sex is a given.

That leads me to my next point: Do not act “girlfriend-y”.

Trying to change the dynamic midway through is a recipe for heartache.

You’ve come to the right place though, I can definitely tell you what works and what destroys a good, consistent, no-strings-attached hook-up.

Am I being a total skank by asking “hey wanna have sex, but you NOT call me and NOT buy me flowers?

” I feel like men have booty calls, but women don’t…why can’t I have one? (especially if I am tested clear of STDs and use protection)Well, I am all for people getting what they want.

If you want to live the dream, then I want to help inspire you.

There are some ground rules to have a consistent booty call though.

No cute pet names, no heart-to-heart discussions, etc.